It made news that a man who’s won 23 Daytime Emmy Awards was nominated for another one.

It’s impossible to watch Being Elmo and not be heartbroken that the man isn’t still on the job. I’m genuinely torn on this one—on one hand, I think it’s utterly bizarre that we make such strong distinctions between 17 and 18 in terms of evaluating people for their choices in sexual partners. On the other, there’s something reprehensible about middle-aged people with people not old enough to drink.

And on the third hand, I’m wondering just why I find that reprehensible, when I’m generally of the opinion that what happens in the bedroom isn’t any of my business for any reason. There are plenty of reprehensible ways that can happen, but is that a universal truth? I think I’d have been pretty pissed at 18 if someone had told me I wasn’t old enough to make my own choices.